based on the inner person, not a persons physical attributes or financial well-being. These individuals can look beyond physical problems because they fall in love with others based on who those people are as human beings.   For such a person to discover the inner you, you must allow your inner being to shine through. This isnt easy. Often people with disabilities tend to hide themselves in shame or to cover their weaknesses with anger. Although these two common responses are quite understandable, you must let as many people as possible see the real you, the happy you, the sensitive you, the sexy you. Then, hopefully, youll find a partner.   Some people who become the partner of a person with disabilities are them- selves disabled and may even have the same disability. But if you act unpleas- ant and make it especially difficult for someone to love you, then whether the person you meet has a disability or not doesnt really matter. There are many wonderful people to whom a disability isnt an impediment to opening up their heart, but that doesnt make them want to spend time with a self-absorbed grouch.   Most disabled people have to struggle every day just to get by, so I know that you possess plenty of strength and courage. I also know, however, that giving up on something long-term, such as finding a partner, is easy to do when just getting down to the street is an effort. But you cant let yourself give up. You have to persevere because finding someone to share your life with is a goal worth every ounce of determination you put into realizing it.   One benefit to showing your bright side is that, even if you never find a part- ner with whom to form a loving and sexual relationship, you will certainly make new friends. People cant help but be attracted to a sunny disposition. If you smile, if you give people compliments, if you tell a funny joke, if you give them a big hello, they will respond positively. On the other hand, if you have a sour face, if you mumble, if you complain, you will turn people off.   Many of you may be saying, “But I have a disability - I have enough troubles. Why do I have to reach out? Why do I have to be the first one to smile?”     Well, you know what? I give the exact same advice to a physically able person who wants to find a partner. Your disposition does play a role in